I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.Go Solo It’s a good idea to have a few pictures in your gallery of you with your friends or even pets, but for that profile picture make sure it’s just you. Profiles pictures aren’t just a way of showing what you look like, they can also be a great way to show another side of your personality. A Little Bit About Me Imagine your ‘Personal Profile’ summary as the blurb of a book. This is where you can be a bit more creative and use pictures that best express who you are!So select photos that look good, but could also in some universe be reasonably understood to be you.
Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).
Call it the algorithm method: Working with data crunchers at the dating sites, we put together 25 tips for writing the perfect profile, selecting the right photo, and really understanding your audience.
We analyzed the 1,000 most popular words on both men and women’s profiles, tabulated the most popular movies and TV shows, and crunched stats on what people consider their best feature vs.
Be Positive You want to highlight your best features and present the traits that you find most appealing and interesting in yourself.
Ask your friends to write a description of you and use some of their words, they’ll see only the best in you and that’s what you want a potential date to see too. Be Specific So many profiles read, ‘I love travelling…’ok, that’s great but so does just about everyone else.